“My life was basically a random set of events until I decided to make a change. I can clearly remember a time in my early 20s. I was working at a structural tank fabrication shop building catwalks, stair treads and railings. I was waking up in the morning exhausted and rushing to work so I could punch my time card for 7:00AM, but as fate would have it, I would miss it by 1 minute most days. 7:01AM. The foreman would pull me into his office and I would get a “talk” and docked 30 minutes off my pay. This sort of scenario happened countless times between the age of 17-25. I got to the point where I was so frustrated with the state of my life, and I remember thinking there has to be a better way. I felt like I never had time for anything and I was always rushing with no time for myself. There was a day somewhere in that tank fabrication shop where I made a decision. Every action I take, and decision I make from this point forward is going to be one that moves me in the direction of never having to look at the clock on the wall again. I was not going to be bound by the rules of time. Once I had that clear direction, I knew it was time to make a game plan.”– from the article “Finding your purpose”
A common theme in this process is being extremely self aware to the point where you are able to analyze your current situation. How can you make the changes and head the direction you want, if you don’t have any idea where you’re starting?
Taking the time to tally up all the stress contributors is important. Often its easier to pick out all the things you don’t like, as opposed to the things you enjoy.
For me, once I had a grip on what factors were making me feel miserable, I could then set out to make a plan on how to change my circumstance.
During this process, it’s important to stay grateful, because it keeps you in check. In reality my circumstances were very good. I had a job with a decent pay, I had food to eat and a place to call home. But at the same time I wanted more out of life.
I had gotten to the point where I had become so frustrated with stagnation and the monotony of day to day life, I had no options but to make a change.
I decided to back check every scenario and decision I would face with the test question ” Is this going to move me closer to where I want to be?” – And if it wasn’t, then I deemed it unnecessary and removed it from my life.
Skills and Execution Win
I consider myself to be a realist. I like to base my thought process on hard facts and clear logic. Gary Vanerchuck, a modern business mentor and podcaster, often talks about Macro VS Micro. He explains how this theory can be used to break down anything you are trying to accomplish in life. The idea that every little thing you do adds up to the big picture. That Micro = Macro. I recommend taking a look at some of Gary’s content and podcasts. Any little edge you can give yourself to get where you want to be, should be taken and absorbed. Here’s a good read to give you a taste of what he’s all about.
“Things happen for you, not to you”
Where is your head at now? Are you blaming where you are at in life on circumstances in the past or out of your control?
This is a major killer on this journey. You can’t use past life experiences or hardships to excuse yourself of a goal. It’s simply not okay to justify where you are at because, a rough childhood, a lengthy divorce or a job loss. Things happen to everyone. This is the nature of life.
What can take away from these bad things? How can you spin them to see the positive? I challenge you to catch yourself this week and when you find yourself blaming another person or situation for the position you are in. Stop. Recognize the fact that you have the ability to actually pivot that feeling into something positive and constructive. Ask yourself how can I use this to my advantage and accomplish my goals?